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The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach 'I Do'

Buried in the data was the revelation that almost half of millennials (43 percent, and higher among the youngest subset) said they would support a marriage model that involved a two-year trial — at which point the union could be either formalized or dissolved, no divorce or paperwork required. Thirty three percent said they’d be open to trying what researchers dubbed the “real estate” approach – marriage licenses granted on a five, seven, 10 or 30-year arms, after which the terms must be renegotiated. And 21 percent said they’d give the “presidential” method a try, whereby marriage vows last for four years but after eight you can elect to choose a new partner.

In total, nearly half of all of those surveyed, ages 18 to 49 – and 53 percent percent of millennials — thought marriage vows should be renewed, and nearly 40 percent said they believed the “till death do us part” vow should be abolished.”

No, thank you. I am very much looking forward to fulfilling my “till death do us part” vow. I believe marriage was given to us by God as a gift: a way to become more like Him by living out this representation of His utterly self-sacrificial love. I think marriage to one person for eternity, with all of the accompanying joys and hardships, is one of God’s ways of shaping our characters and making us ready for His Kingdom. If we’re jumping in and out of marriage, leaving when things become difficult, deciding at the end of some contracted time that we’re over it and ready to move on, when will we learn to die to self and work with all of our heart, soul, and mind to love someone else perfectly, as Christ loves us? When will we learn to impart grace and mercy to someone we discover is flawed and broken for no other reason than that we have made the decision to love him or her? I know this isn’t particularly progressive or forward thinking but I don’t want the millenials’ redefined forever. I’ll take the good ol’ fashioned ‘till death’.

Maybe our moments of disagreement can be an opportunity to extend grace and reach for what our mind hasn’t considered. God does not contain His imagination within a handful of select people, and sometimes He will work through the sharp contrast of something you never heard before to open up your old walls. It’s threatening, and it’s not always right — but let a new idea break through the familiar, and you may become free simply by the humility of embracing the other.
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It’s my hot mama’s birthday! I’m SO grateful God has granted her another year of life, for I am nothing without her! She is the strongest, most intelligent, brave, classy, giving, and God-fearing woman I know! Happy Birthday, Mommy!!! #foreveryoung #foreverbae 🎉🎊🎈🎁😍😘

thesecrowns:

People who claim they don’t watch the WNBA because it’s not good basketball do not know what they are talking about. Maybe it’s true that the women don’t play above the rim much, but if the San Antonio Spurs taught you anything as they dismantled the Heat (on the court and quite possibly, as a team—we’ll see what free agency brings), it’s that great fundamental basketball with screens, cuts, and precision passing can be incredibly exciting. Someone you should watch? Angel McCoughtry of the Atlanta Dream. She was straight beastmode playing for the University of Louisville, and those skills have translated nicely to the WNBA.  Upon joining the Atlanta Dream, McCoughtry soon made a name for herself as an outstanding scorer with excellent penetration and a penchant for drawing the foul. After grabbing Rookie of the Year honors in 2009, she went on to finish third and second in points per game for 2010 and 2011 respectively. She also led the league in free throw attempts twice. On September 8, 2010, McCoughtry set an WNBA playoff record with 42 points in game two of the Eastern Conference Finals against the New York Liberty. In Game 1 of the 2011 WNBA Finals against the Minnesota Lynx, she set Finals records for most points in a quarter (19) and most points in a game (38).  I know she missed a dunk that one time…but I wouldn’t bet against her. At 6’1” and 160 pounds, she has a body built to fly.

Yes! I’ve seen the Atlanta Dream in action and I’m happy McCoughtry is getting some recognition! She (her body, athleticism, discipline) is amazing!

(Source: thesecrowns)

humansofnewyork:

"In my heart of hearts, I wanted to do the right thing, but selling drugs was easy. Everyone was doing it. I mean, I’m not using that as an excuse, I made my own decisions. But I grew up around these Robin Hood figures who would sell drugs, then buy supplies for kids who were going back to school, or pay rent for an old woman who was about to get evicted. All my friends were doing it. It almost seemed fashionable. I never felt proud of it. I always thought I’d transition to a job with the Transit Authority, or a job like this— something I’d feel good about, but instead I transitioned to jail. I did six years. When I got out, it was tempting to go back to the easy money, because everyone around me was still doing it, and I couldn’t get a job. But luckily I found an agency that helps ex-cons, because there aren’t many companies looking to give people a second chance. I’ve had this job for a few years now. You know what product I’m selling now? Myself. Everyone around here is my client. Times Square is a drug to these people. And I’m picking up all the trash so that they can have the full Times Square experience."

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